The Trials and Tribulations of a Change Agent

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Change happens. It’s the nature of all things. Sometimes change is quick and unexpected. Other times it is agonizingly long in coming. Drag your feet to resist the change, it will be stressful. You might even experience a bit of pain. Embrace the change with acceptance and perhaps a bit of excitement – things will go easier.

I’m a Change Agent. My job, or calling if you will, is helping others to adapt, plan and take steps toward positive change. It can be difficult for individuals to see a path out of their rut. They feel stuck. They know they need a change, but don’t know how to climb out of their situation. That’s where I come in. I, and other folks like me, can see a path to positive growth and happiness. Then we help you see it too.

What happens when a Change Agent gets stuck in a muddy rut? Yep. My clothes are covered in the stuff! Here are a few things I’m doing to climb out of the mud and advance to my next opportunity:

Read a Classic againWho Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.

Get Inspired – Read or watch pieces about innovators and other inspiring people who have achieved the goals you dream about

Dream – Listen to yourself. What do you want? What don’t you want?

Take Action – Make a plan and see it through

I’ve been a mentor for ten plus years. 98% of my mentees have gone on to be successful in their business goals. The other 2% refused to either work hard for their dream or couldn’t conquer their fear of change. Moving out of a negative, but comfortable situation can be scary. Find a good mentor or coach to help you on your path. I guarantee happiness is worth the hard work!


Are You Listening to Your Inner Wisdom?

Pitfalls and perils can surprise you on your creative journey. Stay true to the little light from your inner wisdom and you’ll make your dream a reality.

Bypass the promises of “Easy Solutions”

Ignore the detours of doubt

Watch for the signs your inner wisdom leaves for you

Hold on tight to the faith you have in yourself and your dream

Beginning Your Creative Journey

Spring is a wonderful time for renewal and new beginnings. Why not start the creative journey you’ve been dreaming about? Or refresh things on your current adventure?

Here’s a list of things you’ll need to pack for the trip:

  • A positive attitude
  • Passion
  • Your spirit of adventure
  • A rough idea of the plan to reach your goals

What to leave behind:

  • Self-doubt
  • Other peoples’ negative judgements
  • Your inner critic
  • Immovable Expectations (Sometimes you want to allow things to unfold)

Above all else, enjoy the journey!

Words of Encouragement from A Creative in the Trenches

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TAG LINE: If I can do it, so can you!

They told me girls aren’t good at math:

I became a computer programmer

They said I couldn’t pass my project management certification, because I didn’t have enough experience:

I’ve been a PMP since 2004 and am now a successful program manager

The naysayers pontificated my dream of being an author was impossible. I’d never get through those impassible publishing gates:

My fifth novel comes out this summer ( to check out my work)

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Am I super brilliant? Blessed by a fairy godmother? Have an “in” with publishers? I wish.

My Secret: I stay focused on my goal, work hard and maintain a super stubborn faith in my dream.

Don’t let the naysayers talk you out of achievement. I’m living proof they’re wrong. What are you waiting for? Go out and conquer!


Jumping Out of Your Comfort Zone

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Creating your dream takes a leap of faith. It also takes courage.

DO – Act upon your wishes and dreams

DON’T – Sit on the sidelines

DO – Face your fears. What do you have to do to make the next step less scary?

DON’T – Allow fear to freeze you into inaction

DO – Have faith in yourself and your dream

DON’T – Allow doubt to defeat you

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Dreams: A Treasure Trove of Story Ideas


“Where do you get your story ideas?” I’m asked this question often. My work is pretty off the wall and in some cases gruesome. Most people look at me and come up with descriptors like nice, positive or laid-back. One of my friends told me she was sure I’d end up writing children’s books, but the stories I’m given aren’t for children. They’re violent, suspenseful and dark. And one hundred percent of them come from my dreams.

It all starts with a dream scene: I never know when I’m going to have a story dream. Characters appear in my mind as people I feel I’ve known for many years. Their surroundings and actions are so real they could be memories from my own life.  Then the story begins and I feel the raw, unfiltered emotions as  the characters experience what almost always turns out to be the book’s pivotal scene.

In one of my works in progress, I dreamed of a lonely rain soaked grave yard on the Scottish coast. A stranger – foreign and shrouded with mystery – guided a reluctant boy through the gates. Their clothing and lack of industrialization in the environment marked the time as somewhere in the early 1700s. The headstones were fashioned from plain stone and looked fairly new as if this part of the graveyard housed victims of a mass illness.

The boy was reluctant to enter, but the stranger kept a bloodied hand upon his shoulder. I felt perhaps it was superstition or fear of contracting disease. When they stopped at the grave of the boy’s newly deceased mother, however, I felt the boy’s grief and rage. His mother had been murdered. The person who had taken her life remained on the loose.  He fell to his knees, weeping and clutching the wet Earth. Behind him the man wept also. Then they stood and looked out over the violent sea together.

That dream scene spawned a dark fantasy series of five books which are currently in progress. So many dreams, so little waking hours!

Dream Journals are a must: Characters, surroundings and especially emotions are lost when you fall back to sleep. Dream journals are essential. Scratch a quick paragraph or two and you can fall back asleep knowing your next story is waiting for you in the morning.  I used to keep a hand written dream journal. Dreams would come, I’d scramble for the light and scratch out what I’d seen. Now my trusty iPad sits on my night stand. When the dreams come, I type them out in “Pages” and email them to myself. No more re-typing what I’ve written the next day.

Final Thoughts: I’ve been recording my dreams for decades, so my brain has been trained to remember them. It takes practice. Consider starting with a paper and pencil by your bed. Write down what you can remember in the morning. Did you dream? If you did, can you remember any snippets? Write them down.  They may seem a little weird sometimes. Just remember – most of the time dreams are your subconscious’ way of working out things from your waking life. They won’t seem to make much sense, but your subconscious gets it.

Other times, dreams can be sent as encouragement or warnings…BUT, that’s a blog for another day!