Definition of Toxic (Cambridge English Dictionary)
- Very unpleasant or unacceptable
- Causing you a lot of harm and unhappiness over a long period of time
What do you usually think of when you hear the term “toxic?” Maybe you think of harmful chemicals or crude oil spills in the ocean. Radioactive material and asbestos come to mind as well. These substances destroy living things. The human body can show signs of toxicity through skin (acne, rashes, eczema), fatigue and even depression.
We have other types of toxins in our lives that can be just as harmful as physical substances. I’m talking about toxic relationships or environments. Have you entered a room and immediately sensed a heaviness to the air? The people inside are merely occupying the space. No one is smiling. If and when they do speak with each other, it is to complain or share snarky comments. Your good mood is ruined. Their combined negativity and unhappiness are stronger than your good thoughts. Behold the toxic environment.
Signs You’re in A Toxic Situation:
- People or Person is tearing you down rather than building you up
- The situation makes you feel uncomfortable, frustrated, sad or angry
- You dread going into work or seeing a specific person
- You are unhappy
Suggestions for Escape:
- Take a hard look at your excuses for staying in the situation
- Make Self Care a priority
- Avoid the drama. If you don’t play they won’t include you
- Dream Big. Make Plans. Rediscover what makes you happy
- GET OUT!
You’ll notice none of my escape bullets involve you trying to change your toxic coworkers, friends or lovers. They won’t change, because they don’t want to change.Rolling around in the toxic swamp is comfortable. Pulling yourself free and starting a new life is hard work. You can do it! You are worthwhile and deserve happiness.
Be Positive. Be Happy. Be Well.