Why Can’t We Leave Dead Fish Alone?

Dead fish. They are the bane of my existence.

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Every morning, while most folks are still sleeping, the Fabulous Mr. Pooh and I walk by the lake. We enjoy the tranquility of nature. Sometimes the inhabitants of the state park join us in the stillness of a Colorado morning. Deer herds, predator birds and bunnies (Pooh’s favorite) all gather to start the day.

The Fabulous Mr. Pooh – Part Black Lab, Part Great Dane, 100% Cuddle Monster

There are those times, however, when Pooh disappears for a moment. He spots his favorite indulgence – a dead fish. Why he chooses to roll in the rotting carcass, I’ll never understand. He knows very well there is a bath (with soap and everything) waiting for him the second we get home. Pooh just can’t help himself.

What are the dead fishes in your life? Maybe you have a difficult addiction you’re trying to conquer? Or you have a taste for toxic relationships? Whatever the stinky carcass may be, never forget there is a solution. It just takes time and patience. You can do it! Don’t give up!

Be Positive. Be Happy. Be Well.

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What If the Rules Didn’t Apply to You?

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What if you didn’t have to work that 9 to 5 Job?

What Would You Do?

What if you could ignore society’s rebuke to stop day dreaming about writing your novel or performing on stage?

What Would You Do?

What if you refused to believe in limitations?

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What Could You Do?

What if you COULD BE whatever you wanted?

Who Would You Be?

 

Be Positive. Be Happy. Be Well.

 

Toxic Is as Toxic Does

Definition of Toxic (Cambridge English Dictionary)

  1. Poisonous
  2. Very unpleasant or unacceptable
  3. Causing you a lot of harm and unhappiness over a long period of time

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What do you usually think of when you hear the term “toxic?” Maybe you think of harmful chemicals or crude oil spills in the ocean. Radioactive material and asbestos come to mind as well. These substances destroy living things. The human body can show signs of toxicity through skin (acne, rashes, eczema), fatigue and even depression.

We have other types of toxins in our lives that can be just as harmful as physical substances. I’m talking about toxic relationships or environments. Have you entered a room and immediately sensed a heaviness to the air? The people inside are merely occupying the space. No one is smiling. If and when they do speak with each other, it is to complain or share snarky comments. Your good mood is ruined. Their combined negativity and unhappiness are stronger than your good thoughts. Behold the toxic environment.

Signs You’re in A Toxic Situation:

  • People or Person is tearing you down rather than building you up
  • The situation makes you feel uncomfortable, frustrated, sad or angry
  • You dread going into work or seeing a specific person
  • You are unhappy

Suggestions for Escape:

  • Take a hard look at your excuses for staying in the situation
  • Make Self Care a priority
  • Avoid the drama. If you don’t play they won’t include you
  • Dream Big. Make Plans. Rediscover what makes you happy
  • GET OUT!

You’ll notice none of my escape bullets involve you trying to change your toxic coworkers, friends or lovers. They won’t change, because they don’t want to change.Rolling around in the toxic swamp is comfortable. Pulling yourself free and starting a new life is hard work. You can do it! You are worthwhile and deserve happiness.

Be Positive. Be Happy. Be Well.

 

Are You Trying to Force a Square Peg in a Round Hole?

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Jorge Pacarro, the last of his tribe and reluctant leader of war torn Valdeon, demands to be heard. Clever statesman and warrior, he’s a pivotal character throughout the entire Heart of the Warrior series. Jorge fascinates me. I suppose this is why I have blinders on sometimes when it comes to his storyline.

I’ve been working on book three of the series for several months now. Every author has that one challenging chapter. Mine is a Jorge scene. Out of place in the flow of the story, Jorge’s chapter just won’t fit anywhere I try to put it. The scene involves critical information to the series. It has to go somewhere.

Then it came to me after taking a week’s vacation in Colorado. I had my light bulb moment. Jorge’s chapter doesn’t belong in book three. It needs to be the opening scene of book four. Problem solved!  I’d be pretty pleased with myself if the same thing hadn’t happened in book one and two.

What is your square peg? Are you struggling with a problem you just can’t seem to lick?

  • Take a step back. Work on something else for a few days, then come back with fresh eyes
  • Ask a trusted friend or colleague for advice
  • If all else fails, move on. Sometimes you have to shelf good ideas. It just isn’t their time

Best wishes and good luck!

 

Beware the Little Rain Clouds in Your Life

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A certain gloomy little donkey from a beloved children’s story (Can’t mention his name or use his image without getting in legal trouble) cannot be cheered. Despite the best efforts of the gang from the Hundred Acre Wood, he persists in being a downer. I love the little donkey. I really do…as a loveable animated character. The world, unfortunately, is full of not-so-cute little rain cloud donkeys. These are best avoided.

We’ve all had this morning: You wake up rested and on time. Your hair cooperates for a change and the clothes you’ve chosen are comfortable. Off you go to work with a positive attitude. Sitting down at your desk, you sip your coffee (perfectly prepared) and get ready for the day.

Then here comes the gloomy donkey. You steel yourself as the office’s little rain cloud moves closer. Maybe you get suckered in and try to exchange pleasantries. The foolish “How are you today?” slips out before you can stop yourself. The little donkey sighs and shrugs his shoulders. “Livin’ the dream. Ho Hum.”

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Let me tell you a secret:The little rain cloud cannot be cheered up, because it likes being the little rain cloud.

Tips for dealing with these gloomy donkeys in your life, before they drag you down in their negative swamp:

  • Walk the other way – Sounds mean right? Better to walk away then have your positive energy sucked into an empty emotional void
  • DO NOT Engage – If the donkey starts braying, just don’t play.
  • Protect Yourself – Negativity takes personal energy. Positive thoughts increase your energy and happiness.

Be Positive. Be Happy. Be Well.

 

Will You Be There?

Denver Comic Con 2018 takes over LoDo next weekend! Here’s a sneak peek at my schedule:

Friday, June 15th

Join me at Author’s Alley (Booth 4) at 1:00 pm to 1:55 pm. I’ll be signing my Heart of the Warrior seriesbooks and chatting with fans. [Insert Book 2 cover]

Saturday, June 16th

Booking signing at 11:00 am to 11:55 am (Booth 2).

Panel 4:30 pm to 5:20 pm: Real Women. Real Strength. Writing Realistic Female Protagonists (Room 402/403)

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Sunday, June 17th

Panel 10:30 am to 11:10 am: Teen Writers: Overcoming Insecurity and How to Think Up Ideas! (8bit Stage @ Kids’ LAB)

Panel 12:00 pm to 12:50 pm: Writing From the Shadows (Room 406/407)

Panel 2:30 pm to 3:20 pm: Leave Your Party at Home – Political Intrigue in Fiction (Room 402/403)

Panel 4:30pm to 5:20 pm: The Many Faces of Fantasy (Room 402/403)